You no longer have to follow any dark muck projections into the toxic rabbit hole . . .
They don’t need to understand you. And you don’t need to understand their twisted reasoning. Resists acting on behalf of your old wounded self. They don’t need to be set straight. You don’t need to recruit others into their drama. You don’t need revenge (that’s not your style).
The fact that you know the truth now. Is enough. They’ve shown you their ways. Believe them. Walk away. Cut cords. They are not worth of your love, energy & sparkle. Remember. Some thrive of positive & negative attention. Do not engage. No matter how much you inner demons tell you to. Fire up your self love shield & hold onto this newly found love of you.
(Heart saving mantra for toxic demons and other inner projectors of dark)
Shitty people feel shitty about themselves. They project their own shortcomings onto you. Choose to not believe these lies. And be strong about this. A mumbled NO from you doesn’t make you too sensitive or too much.
If they don’t accept your opinion, they already show you their manipulative ways.
And you don’t need that kind of anti love.
You can decide to heal you at any given moment.
No matter how deep you are in the muck. Take baby steps. Forgive yourself. Love you. More. Rather than analysing the ifs & whys of toxic behaviour. Decide to heal you. Their actions aren’t your responsibility. But theirs (no matter what lies the try to spin in your head)
If they betray you, lie to you or pull you down. Don’t make excuses for their toxic. You must know your worth. Always. They didn’t have a bad day. And what you apparently said & did didn’t cause them to do anything. They had a choice. And chose. And no. You are not selfish for stepping away or saying no. You’re creating boundaries & awakening to their shitty stuff. (Congratulations!)
Healing isn’t easy. It’s muck & darkness sprinkled with bouts of light & inner thunder. It’s alienation and being the odd one out. It’s attached detachment and more pain than you ever thought possible. But it’s also awakening you. The love & zest for life you have. And the realisation that you are indeed so much more than enough.
Healing you means to begin your transformation from victim to angelic warrior. And that my love. Is a call only for the strong & courageous ones. Just like you.
Don’t look to the ones who only have their own best interest in mind. Look for the one who love your heart & raise your sparkle. Find the ones who tell you all is possible. (Those are your people).Ulli Stanway
Sip a little more – The Sweet Truth (A Love Note To You)
For more Soul Healing I recommend – Power, Surviving and Thriving after Narcissistic Abuse
“A MUST READ! This is an amazing read for anyone who has lived through the experience and survived narcissistic abuse. I wish I could buy this for all the people who ever discounted, invalidated or dismissed my experience as well. I feel that this book will be an asset to my healing and recovery from the abuse!” – Erin Turner