Does this headline resonate with your heart? Or do you quiver straight away, wondering what others would think of you if in fact, you would make YOUR HAPPINESS a priority?
What would ‘they’ say about you? I know. You are so selfish. And if today, you do decide to look after yourself first, you most likely end up defending your new ways 24/7 to some.
So, let me ask you a question right here and now: who are the ones who manipulate you into full-filling their needs whilst forgetting yours? Often with charm and oh so convincing lies and versions of the truth. Who are the ones who prioritize themselves within your story? You know who I’m talking about. The toxic manipulators who try to control every aspect of you in order to fill the void within their hearts. The ones who take advantage of your empathy and the ones who claim to apparently know you better than you know yourself!
Many toxic manipulators are not used to you stepping into your own power. They want you to feel small and your constant need for their approval fuels their ways of taking advantage. If you dare to say ‘No’ or if you try to set healthy boundaries, you might find yourself at the end of a full blown smear campaign. Or you might get the silent treatment. And you will be told that you are taking things too seriously and that you are too emotional. And you end up overthinking and analyzing your ways and you might even start to believe their lies! Maybe, after all, you did overreact and you are too emotional. And maybe if you change your ways, things will get better.
But here’s the truth. Things won’t get better. Ever. Because in their eyes, it’s never about you. It’s all about them.
When you are learning to step into your own power and seeing the truth, they won’t be able to manipulate you any longer. The moment you understand that you are worthy to receive the brilliant love you give and that you deserve the same respect you show to others, they lose their tight grip on your soul. When you realize that the previously given validation comes at a hefty heart price, you eventually choose to free yourself from those toxic strings. Because. Baby, you’ve got yourself to save.
And there’s one more heart advice. Don’t go off yourself for feeling all. Stop apologizing for your sensitivity. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Being open-hearted in others is a gift, not a curse. Remember, lies and smear campaigns are a reflection of the liar. And don’t ever allow anybody to question your motives. Their smallness is no longer your problem. Cut those toxic string and run towards the horizon of freedom. As fast as you can and far away from those soul-sucking blamers and liars.
It doesn’t matter if you stand alone for a while. Trust a baby, a truth finds a way. And there’s always karma. And She works in mysterious ways. She doesn’t believe in lies and betrayal but one thing alone: what goes around come around.
So my sweet tender thunder heart, take these lessons of darkness and make them part of your story. Stand strong in the projected muck and practice the art of self-love. Remember, you are the most important part of this story.
And nobody gets to tear you down just to make their own little selves feel better. Ever. Again.